do you really know what makes people tick?
know yourself, so you can be yourself
It starts with you. Knowing what really makes you tick.
Because the minute you stop telling yourself the narrative that makes you feel safe, secure & comfortable… is the minute your life will change forever. I call this “The Shattering”. If you’ve experienced it, you know it.
For me, it was the moment I realized I had some level of (very) high functioning anxiety. It was as if a veil had been lifted from my eyes. In this moment, I all of a sudden noticed I had set up a million and one habits, routines & structures to feel in control of this pretty little thing called life. And while this may have initially been a heavy realization, I also instantly felt myself breathe easier. Because I had articulated the truth of who I am.
With this awareness, I could finally stop trying to be someone I was not, and instead begin to build a life that worked for the real me. I could simply be me. And as I’ve come to realize… only by being ourselves can we truly accept ourselves.
let’s make it feel eas(ier).
I know we all love a quiz, so I created one to show you what primarily motivates you in life. Because this motivation is what influences our behavior & decisions in all aspects of life.
to further your understanding
An excerpt from one of my most popular workshops outlining the 5 different motivations in David Rock’s SCARF model. The tool my first coach gifted me with - and now my gift to you. Enjoy!
Learning how to really listen
Knowing our own motivation is only 1 piece of the influence puzzle. Because fortunately, the world is made up of many people with varying motivations.
As I trained to become a coach, I learned how to really listen. And this has been one of my most prized secrets in navigating this crazy world we live in with elegant ease.
You've likely never been taught how to listen. Once you learn & understand the 3 levels of listening, your life - work, home & otherwise - will be forever changed.
Once you learn & understand the 3 levels of listening that the premier coaching institution - CTI - teaches its coaches, your life (work, home & otherwise) will be forever changed. Be sure to soak up all the goodness in this powerful excerpt from one of my most popular workshops.
musings on the 2 levers of influence: motivation & listening
listening to your anger
when you let your emotions motivate you
how listening deeply can heal the next generation
If you want to get to know your emotions better, I have a light yet deeply insightful offering for you - an Imagination Exploration. Take 6 minutes to explore your inner world — and you might just discover what you need most in this current season of life.
Sometimes our subconscious knows us better than we do… let your mind wander, and see what you need most right now. Free for all who need it.
go deeper
go deeper
Those who are ready to go deep into the truth of what motivates them and how they influence others are those who tend to benefit from guidance sessions most. If you’re ready to move towards bringing ease both into how you navigate the world and how you work with others - I’d love to spend an hour guiding you to do so.
Not quite ready to make the leap to private sessions? I have some of my top tips on influence in the form of The Confident Leader’s Secret as a self paced offering. It’s a great place to get started - and individualized support can always be built on top of this.